3 Steps To Healthier Boundaries On And Off Social Media
In today’s day and age, social media has a huge impact on our environment. Have you ever felt discouraged (on multiple occasions) by a particular person’s posts? Was it from an old friend? A fitness page? A random person that you don’t even remember following?? 😜 Don’t be afraid to separate yourself from (aka unfollow or mute) any source that is no longer lifting your spirits or helping you strive to be a better you.
Your environment is composed of who and what you surround yourself with; sometimes this is by choice and other times it is out of your control. For example, you can’t always choose whether or not to surround yourself with certain family members who may not be supportive of your health and fitness journey. Because there are aspects of our environment that we can’t control, it is that much more important to control the ones we can, especially if they create a toxic environment or one that is detrimental to our mental and emotional health.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. While working on improving our environment is important, being mindful of how we react to situations is just as important since not every part of our environment is in our control.
So how do you ensure that you have the healthiest environment possible?
1. Evaluate your environment. Who in your life makes you feel uplifted and encouraged? Surround yourself with them as much as you can. Who in your life makes you feel discouraged and down? Try to remove yourself from their presence as much as possible. If this is a family member, a co-worker, or someone you can’t just remove yourself from, try to give them as little of your attention and emotional energy as possible. If you cannot change their actions/attitude towards you, it’s best to simply disconnect and not engage emotionally.
This doesn’t mean sweeping issues under the rug. I’m a big advocate for honest communication and conflict resolution when both sides are open and willing. But some people have zero intention of seeing any side but their own and/or get enjoyment out of bringing you down. In those cases, you have to take care of yourself and remember that their actions reflect more about their issues than any of your own.
2. Surround yourself with people who are positive lights in your life. Whether they’re personal friends, family, or people you’ve met and follow on social media (AKA #fbggirls! 👯)! All that positive, feel-goody goodness? Yeah, get more of that in your life. 🙌
3. Work on your inner environment – the environment you create in your head! Do you focus on positive thinking and positive self-talk? If this doesn’t come naturally to you, don’t let it get you down and keep you there. A daily, conscious effort is required if you want to transition to more positive thinking. Practice forgiveness within yourself, don’t beat yourself up for being human, and always try looking at the bright side.
Each of you deserves to feel uplifted and supported in every way, from every aspect of your life. If you have any tips for how you’ve successfully set healthy boundaries, or what you’ve done to make your environment more positive, leave them below so that we can all learn from each other!